Love Text Messages for Every Stage of a Relationship

A message that feels charming on a third date can feel odd on a tenth anniversary, and the other way round. Matching the tone to the stage is the simplest way to avoid awkwardness.

At the beginning

Keep it light and low-pressure. You are showing interest, not making promises.

• "I had a great time yesterday. Same time next week?"
• "Your joke about the elevator is still making me laugh."

When it is getting serious

Share a little more about how you feel, but stay specific.

• "I like how calm I feel when I'm with you."
• "I saw a book you'd love and thought of you immediately."

In a long relationship

Small, unexpected messages carry more weight than grand declarations.

• "Ten years and you still make ordinary days feel special."
• "I'll cook tonight. You choose the film."

After an argument

• "I'm sorry for how I said it. I'd like to talk when you're ready."
• "I care more about us than about being right."

Etiquette that works at every stage

• Do not send several messages in a row if there is no reply.
• Avoid serious topics by text; ask to call instead.
• Respect time zones. A "good morning" at 3 a.m. is a wake-up call.
• Do not forward private messages to others.

Long distance?

Text to keep in touch and save the important conversations for a call or a face-to-face video chat. If you need to text a phone number abroad, the SMS tool explains how to do it from a browser. More examples: short love SMS.

Messages by situation

Situation	Example
Good morning	"Morning. I hope the coffee is strong and the day is easy."
Missing you	"It's an ordinary Tuesday, and I still wish you were here."
Thank you	"Thank you for listening last night. It meant a lot."
Surprise	"Check your door at 6. I may or may not have ordered dinner."

What to avoid

• Sending messages when you are angry; wait an hour.
• Mixing apologies and demands in one text.
• Forwarding private messages to friends.